How To Immunize Yourself Against This Plague?


60% of people lie, at least once during the first 10 minutes of a conversation. And on average, most people tell 2 to 3 lies per conversation. Wow, just like that! What do you do now to know when you’re being lied to? Fortunately, there are tricks to spot liars. The secret? In her book, Lillian Glass explains that you should focus on your face, body language, and speech patterns. And, believe me, Lillian has experience in this field: she works with the FBI as a body language expert!
Here are the infallible signs that betray liars! And the five strategies to better foil a liar:

1. Their head jerks around

If the person turns their head suddenly when you ask them or a question, beware. They may be lying to you.

2. Their breathing changes

When a person lies, it will make them nervous. They will breathe a little harder, raise their shoulders, and speak a little quieter.

3. They have a rigid posture

Small, relaxed movements are natural in a conversation. Conversely, a rigid posture is a bad sign: something is probably up.

4. They repeat certain words or phrases

To convince the other person, the liar repeats his or her arguments several times. This is also a way to save time and to think about what they are going to say.

5. They touch or hide their mouth

When someone touches their mouth, it means they are embarrassed & don’t want to answer the question. So they physically show it by hiding it.

6. They instinctively protect vulnerable parts of their body

If his hands cover his chest, neck, head, or stomach, you’ve probably touched a sensitive spot.

7. They tend to point

When a liar thinks you’ve discovered their lies, they become defensive and hostile, which can lead to easy finger-pointing.

8. They give too much detail

When someone fills the conversation with lots of unnecessary details, it’s often a sign of lying. It’s a way of showing that they’re telling the truth.

9. They have more and more difficulty expressing themselves

When someone lies, they are under stress. Because of their nervousness, their mouth becomes dry and they start biting their lips or have an oyster mouth.

10. They look at you without blinking

When a person is lying, it is natural for them to avoid looking at you. But an experienced liar may do the opposite by staring at you to take control of the conversation and manipulate you.

Strategies to better deal with a liar :

1. Adopt an open and supportive attitude.

The accusatory style is the least effective. Studies have shown that showing support for the interviewee during the interview facilitates the conversation and encourages cooperative witnesses (i.e., truthful witnesses) to provide more information (Fisher 2010). As a result, the interviewee is more likely to provide cues for lying in their speech.

2. Use open-ended questions and let the person talk.

Lying is a complex task. Truthful people tend to give more details than people who lie (Johnson, 2006; Geiselman & Fisher, 2014). Liars must construct their lies, making up details, which makes the task more difficult and more likely to betray them. This presents them with a dilemma, as providing brief answers raises more suspicion. In order to appear credible, the liar adds information that cannot be verified or that will prove to be unfounded. For this reason, open-ended questions help to distinguish truth from falsehood: “Tell me everything you did today.

3. Create a rule of commitment.

Asking a person to promise to tell the truth makes lying more difficult because lying itself is already a breach of the unspoken rule of commitment: to tell the truth. Talwar and colleagues (2002) found that simply asking children to promise to tell the truth increases the likelihood that they will be honest. So swearing on the Bible (or promising to tell the truth) in court probably had a purpose.

4. Creating cognitive overload.

The interviewer can impose cognitive overload during the interview (make it more difficult for the interviewee to complete the interview), either by encouraging the interviewee to say more or by asking unexpected questions. Planned lies are easier to cover up than spontaneous lies. Liars prepare for the interview. They do this by planning answers for questions they expect (see Hartwig, Granhag, & Strömwall, 2007). This strategy is effective because planned lies have fewer cues than spontaneous responses (DePaulo et al., 2003).

5. Using Evidence Strategically

Lying suspects and truthful witnesses typically employ different strategies in interviews (Granhag & Hartwig, 2008). Liars are likely to use an avoidance strategy (e.g., they avoid saying where they were at a certain time) or a denial strategy (e.g., they deny being in a certain place at a certain time). Truthful witnesses, on the other hand, tend to be more communicative and tell things as they really happened (Hartwig, Granhag, & Strömwall, 2007). Also, the accounts of innocent suspects will be more consistent with known information than the accounts of lying suspects (Granhag & Hartwig, 2008). Recent research by Granhag and colleagues (2013) found that revealing evidence incrementally, starting with indirect information (e.g., “Information reveals that you recently went to the train station.”)